In India, when it comes to marriage, a romantic relationship doesn’t often involve just two people. Several problem arises with those couples who believe in the magic of love but their parents are against their relationships. If you are one such couple then do not worry; In this post, we look at how to deal with your parents who aren’t agreeing to a boy/girl of your choice for marriage, and how to convince them.
Convince your Parents for Love Marriage by introducing them to the love of your life
This meeting’s purpose will be to make your own parents understand your relationship and how much devoted you both are for each other. If you are able to use this meeting to impress your parents that he/she is an ideal match for you, to some extent, it will be simple for them to convince you of a love marriage with him.
Befriend your parents
Since you have made your mind of marrying the partner of your choice, you also want your parents to accept your decision, you will have to befriend them first.
Here’s an example:
Mom, do you remember my friend Ritika who studied with me in college? Her cousin had so many complications in her relationship. The guy belonged to a different community and caste, and parents were totally against it. But somehow finally, their parents got convinced and to everyone’s surprise, they are happily married now. It’s quite strange, right?
This story is just an example, you can create similar stories to start the conversation. The idea is to understand your parent’s opinion and reaction so that you know how things will work out for you and how to take things further.
Show your parents that you are responsible and matured enough now
Always act in a responsible and mature manner so that your parents can trust your decision-making ability. For example, take a leading role in solving any problems facing the family; lending a helping hand to your parents as and when required. No one would trust the judgment of someone who appears immature and irresponsible, so make sure you play your part well.
Proving them time and again that you are dependable, rational and sensible will increase their confidence in you and they will probably be able to accept your love marriage easily.
Take help of the relatives who are elder to your parents or whom your parents admire and respect
If your parents are still stubborn and adamant not to support your decision, you can involve your extended family i.e. your relatives. You can try and convince your grandparents or relatives who are elder to your parents, and who you are comfortable talking. There is a possibility that your parents will get convinced by them.
Listen to your parents’ perspective also
It is really important that you listen to your parents’ perspective and the concerns they have regarding your love marriage. Even though they are against your relationship and idea of marriage. It may be the inter-caste thing, perhaps they are not sure of your prospective partner’s intentions. Remember that without knowing what they are actually thinking, you will not be able to deal with the issues conveniently. Do not become very defensive but assert your position in a clear and respectful manner.
Make your parents see the best in your partner
Highlight the good qualities of your partner in front of your parents as and when possible. Make sure when you do that, you talk about those positives which interest your parents. This will help you convince your parents about your love marriage.
Turn down any suggestions of meeting someone else for marriage
Your parents will do everything they can to convince you to meet someone else and forget about your partner. But you have to be loyal to your partner and turn down any suggestions of meeting someone else. Be persistent so that your parents realize that you truly love your partner and there is no one else you could ever imagine to marry.